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Self-confidence is an important key to success in any walk of life. People with self-confidence are noticed more. They achieve their goals relatively easily. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence often end up being losers. You too need to build your self-confidence if you want to do well in life. Here are ten tips that can help you build that elusive self-confidence:
Self-confidence is an important key to success in any walk of life. People with self-confidence are noticed more. They achieve their goals relatively easily. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence often end up being losers. You too need to build your self-confidence if you want to do well in life. Here are ten tips that can help you build that elusive self-confidence:
1. Self-confidence is found in people who have healthy self-esteem. They know their personal worth and act accordingly. A good way to improve your personal worth is to make a list of your accomplishments every day. You will be surprised to know how many positive acts you perform every day in life, but which you don't notice. Once you start looking at this list, your self-confidence will boom.
2. Be clear about your goals. If need be, break your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. Pat yourself every time you achieve a minor goal. It will boost you're a self-confidence, and help you achieve bigger goals.
3. Find a mentor who can help you reach your goal. Most people, who have done well in life, have a mentor who has traveled the same road on which they are traveling today. Meet your mentor regularly, and seek his advice and support as a routine. You will find that you are learning something valuable every day.
4. Socialize with people who are positive and supportive, who like and respect you. Give them the same support and respect that they give you. Avoid people who are negative and critical of you. Such people erode your self-confidence. They make you look at your negative self, and not your positive self. After some time, you get enveloped in their cynical and negative world-view. Nothing can be more damaging than that. Dump such friends as soon as you can.
5. Pay attention to how you look. Take pleasure in wearing good clothes and being well groomed. It makes you feel good. People too look at you differently. Remember that every human being wants to be found in the company of smart, intelligent, successful people. You can soon be a centre of attraction if you radiate a positive, smart look. It can very easily make the difference between success and failure.
6. Don't be afraid of failures. Take them in your stride and move on. Say to yourself that you will succeed the next time. Never make the mistake of allowing your failures to overwhelm you. They will force you into a shell, and destroy your self-confidence. A better way is to shrug your failures as something inconsequential, and take on a new challenge. Of course, you must learn from your mistakes, and be realistic about your abilities. People who try to over-reach often fall down. You should not allow that to happen in the name of self-confidence.
7. Keep yourself fit by exercising regularly and controlling your diet. A fit and healthy person is much more active and achieves more in his career. Physical fitness, like self-confidence, glows on your face.
8. Have a wide range of interests, and take an active interest in what's going on in the world. Meet and talk to a lot of people. Don't focus all your attention only on your work and on your problems. Divert your attention to new interests, and new tasks. This will keep your mind happily occupied, and boost your self-confidence.
9. Take part in activities that you are good at. You may have excelled at things in the past and then given them up due to lack of time. Return to those activities again and see your self-confidence grow.
10. Pick up a new hobby or craft that interests you. It will keep you occupied. It will also increase your self- confidence as you become more skilled in it.
Try to practice these tips as faithfully as you can, and see the difference in your life.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Free mini-course reveals how to change your limiting thinking and how to increase the level of your self-esteem to set yourself free. Check out http://www.vision-to-action.com and see for yourself how you can build a greater self-esteem to set up any goal and reaching any goal, for your best and highest good.
Dania
http://www.selfconfidencesuccessandhappiness.blogspot.com/
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Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Sunday, January 8, 2012
The Art Of Happiness- Authentic Tips
Would you like to be 100% happier than you are now? How about 1,000% happier? What stands between you and having greater happiness now? Read on to see how you can discover the happiness you're looking for in your life. It's just one step away.
Have you ever noticed how often people rely on others in their pursuit of happiness? How they expect someone else to make them happy? You might hear people say things like: "If only he would be nicer." "Didn't she know that would hurt my feelings?" "I would be happy if he would only talk to me more."
When people have this idea in their head they can spend a lot of time figuring out how to fix or change other people.
What's the trouble if you try this strategy? Not only do the other people feel irritated, they often get defensive at your attempt to "FIX" them. And it leaves you powerless. If THEY don't change, YOU can't be happy.
But even more important is that, since what you focus your attention on grows, focusing on what you don't like will cause it to become what you notice most in your life.
Say, for example, when your significant other comes home they often leave a trail with their clothes, bags, books, whatever, strewn throughout the house. It drives you nuts! Every time you look at the residue of stuff they leave behind them, you feel irritated.
This has gone on for so long that now you notice every little piece of debris, everywhere you look, all the time.
Where you place your attention increases.
Perhaps you say something like this to them: "Can't you pick up after yourself? You are such a slob."
It's probably not the first time you've talked about the clothes on the floor. And probably not much has changed since that first time. So what happens next?
The person leaving the clothes around probably gets annoyed at being told what to do. You lose hope that things will ever change. And you focus more and more on what you don't enjoy about your partner.
Remember, what you focus your attention on grows!
So here it is, the step that will move you closer to being happier than ever before: Develop YOUR ability to focus your attention on what you ENJOY.
Maybe this sounds too simple. But ask yourself: "What would my day be like if I started and ended it by simply noticing or remembering everything that I enjoy in my life?"
Remember, what you focus your attention on grows. Focus on what you enjoy - it's quite simply the fastest, easiest step you can take to start finding happiness in every moment.
Try this. Pretend that you have an emotional bank account. Every one of your thoughts makes a deposit. This means that if you're constantly depositing painful memories in your emotional bank account, they will grow and grow.
Those painful memories will multiply just like in regular bank account giving interest. What's this? It's compounding the effect of thoughts like: "What a slob!" with more thoughts like: "She doesn't care about me." or "He's the most selfish person I've ever met."
Now, do you feel happy?
Take each day and look for things you are grateful for and really bring you true pleasure.
Your significant other comes into the house and smiles. Is that something to be thankful for? They ask you if you would like a cup of tea. Is that something to be thankful for? You see them put something away, without being asked. Is that something to be thankful for?
Now imagine depositing these memories in your emotional bank account, day after day. And compound them with as many other thankful, grateful thoughts as you can so they grow and grow. "I love it when he remember I like milk in my coffee; he's so considerate sometimes." "I'm so glad we like doing things together." "We just have so much in common; she is so much fun to be with"
How do you feel now?
Happy or sad, good or bad, pleasure or pain - authentic happiness is up to you. Focus on what you enjoy. Enjoy being thankful. It's something anyone can do, even you.
What you focus your attention on will grow. You do have an emotional bank account so start saving your happiness up today. With a bank-full of thankful
, you'll be a master at the art of "having happiness now."
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Have you ever noticed how often people rely on others in their pursuit of happiness? How they expect someone else to make them happy? You might hear people say things like: "If only he would be nicer." "Didn't she know that would hurt my feelings?" "I would be happy if he would only talk to me more."
When people have this idea in their head they can spend a lot of time figuring out how to fix or change other people.
What's the trouble if you try this strategy? Not only do the other people feel irritated, they often get defensive at your attempt to "FIX" them. And it leaves you powerless. If THEY don't change, YOU can't be happy.
But even more important is that, since what you focus your attention on grows, focusing on what you don't like will cause it to become what you notice most in your life.
Say, for example, when your significant other comes home they often leave a trail with their clothes, bags, books, whatever, strewn throughout the house. It drives you nuts! Every time you look at the residue of stuff they leave behind them, you feel irritated.
This has gone on for so long that now you notice every little piece of debris, everywhere you look, all the time.
Where you place your attention increases.
Perhaps you say something like this to them: "Can't you pick up after yourself? You are such a slob."
It's probably not the first time you've talked about the clothes on the floor. And probably not much has changed since that first time. So what happens next?
The person leaving the clothes around probably gets annoyed at being told what to do. You lose hope that things will ever change. And you focus more and more on what you don't enjoy about your partner.
Remember, what you focus your attention on grows!
So here it is, the step that will move you closer to being happier than ever before: Develop YOUR ability to focus your attention on what you ENJOY.
Maybe this sounds too simple. But ask yourself: "What would my day be like if I started and ended it by simply noticing or remembering everything that I enjoy in my life?"
Remember, what you focus your attention on grows. Focus on what you enjoy - it's quite simply the fastest, easiest step you can take to start finding happiness in every moment.
Try this. Pretend that you have an emotional bank account. Every one of your thoughts makes a deposit. This means that if you're constantly depositing painful memories in your emotional bank account, they will grow and grow.
Those painful memories will multiply just like in regular bank account giving interest. What's this? It's compounding the effect of thoughts like: "What a slob!" with more thoughts like: "She doesn't care about me." or "He's the most selfish person I've ever met."
Now, do you feel happy?
Take each day and look for things you are grateful for and really bring you true pleasure.
Your significant other comes into the house and smiles. Is that something to be thankful for? They ask you if you would like a cup of tea. Is that something to be thankful for? You see them put something away, without being asked. Is that something to be thankful for?
Now imagine depositing these memories in your emotional bank account, day after day. And compound them with as many other thankful, grateful thoughts as you can so they grow and grow. "I love it when he remember I like milk in my coffee; he's so considerate sometimes." "I'm so glad we like doing things together." "We just have so much in common; she is so much fun to be with"
How do you feel now?
Happy or sad, good or bad, pleasure or pain - authentic happiness is up to you. Focus on what you enjoy. Enjoy being thankful. It's something anyone can do, even you.
What you focus your attention on will grow. You do have an emotional bank account so start saving your happiness up today. With a bank-full of thankful
, you'll be a master at the art of "having happiness now."ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Are you ready to embrace happiness? To uncover the secrets behind personal self improvement that can lead to finding happiness, sign up for our thought-provoking and motivational Weekly Action Tips eMail series. Or visit our blog at: http://www.NewAgeSelfHelp.com.
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Go Back And Live Life Over Again
Can you really go back in time and live life over again?
And this time GET IT RIGHT?
I'll let you decide...
You already know that from the ages of 0 to 5, you were
constantly soaking up information.
Everything - ALL input - was accepted without question. All on
a subconscious level.
Because we lacked the ability to evaluate. Our conscious mind
simply had not yet developed enough to determine "this is
good" and "that is bad".
In this early stage of life, you were being programmed.
The greatest influence, of course, was your mother.
Think back for a second - what do you suppose mom believed about
her feelings?
Did she view them as grand and glorious gifts? Powerful
expressions of her divine nature?
Did she understand how truly VALUABLE it is to develop a
healthy, mature relationship with WHATEVER she was feeling?
I think we both know the answer to those questions...
Now, keep in mind, until the age of about two years old, you
felt whatever mom felt. When she was happy; you were happy.
When she was scared; you were scared. When she was sad; you
were sad.
Your emotional responses formed and shaped themselves
long before you could think about whether or not they were
the ones you wanted. You had no choice in the matter.
Patterns were laid.
Programs were formed.
Neurological pathways of least effort were created in your
brain. Patterns that most likely exist to this very day.
After the age of 5 or 6 - as you learned to reason and think
for yourself - you may have changed some of those patterns.
Perhaps you flipped them around, so now you do the exact
opposite.
But that's simply the other side of the same coin - and
mother's influence lives on in your brain and in your life.
Those first five years are critical to your life TODAY,
for several reasons.
1. At that age, you couldn't evaluate.
Everything was accepted as fact. You didn't get to decide
what to believe and what not to believe. You had no way of
knowing if what you were about to believe was true or not.
You didn't have the ability to question ANYTHING.
For example -
At this young age, you couldn't possibly associate a spanking
with errant behavior.
You could be trained - but no one ever learns and grows in
a positive way from punishment. Especially a small child.
Instead, the pain of punishment became internalized. And you
could easily come to believe love equals pain.
Because, first of all, there will always be some love between
a mother and child. The love always exists.
But so often, there's also pain. Either by direct punishment,
or by indirect means such as withholding affection.
Mother's disapproval comes in many forms.
And that's not to mention the downright fatigue and hormone
changes and mood swings and angry outbursts and all the
other stuff that comes with the VERY difficult task of being
a mother!
It's almost impossible to be loving all the time. No matter
how hard she tried. But that rage she forgot in a few hours
lives on in you today.
You were a blank slate. Soaking up everything like a sponge.
And the most INTENSE feelings created the BIGGEST impact
and the most POWERFUL programs. Programs you may be living
out today and every day of your life.
Age does not diminish them one bit.
This stands as one of many examples of what happens during
those critical early years when you're unable to evaluate
and rationalize what's happening to you.
2. Beliefs build on previous beliefs.
Let's say you believe - as many people do - that love equals
pain. And you formed this belief at an early age - when you
were a blank slate.
It became a foundational belief. A fundamental belief.
Locked in by intense feelings of sadness, hurt, confusion
and perhaps even memories of physical pain.
Now every other belief around love will rest upon that first
belief about love. Plus, every subsequent belief about PAIN
will also rest upon that belief.
So not only will it influence the pain of love - but also
the LOVE of PAIN! Love and pain become intertwined.
Beliefs are stored in the subconscious mind. Your subconscious
seeks CONSISTENCY above all else. It doesn't give you
what you say you want - it gives you whatever is consistent
with the beliefs you ALREADY hold.
Remember, those beliefs you learned about love and pain
were accepted as the Gospel Truth.
Reality follows belief. YOUR reality follows YOUR beliefs.
The more intense the feelings around a particular belief,
the more influence that belief has in your life and the more
likely it will continue to manifest in your reality.
And when you're a small child - EVERYTHING is intense!
Are you beginning to see how much impact those early beliefs
have on your present condition today?
And why it's really not your fault if you're going through a
ton of emotional pain now?
Not only is love painful...
But for so many of us, we're ATTRACTED to pain - in a failed
attempt to feel love.
All because of a faulty belief.
Made by a two-year-old.
Unable to be reasoned away.
Reinforced in concrete by intense pain.
Influencing every single action we take today.
No matter how hard we try, change seems impossible. Because
we're standing on a foundation of "love = pain".
And now it's like trying to plant flowers on barren soil.
"Why can't I grow beautiful roses?"
"Why does my life seem so miserable when I'm trying so hard?"
Because of the foundation that seems rock-solid; written in
stone.
As you think about what I'm saying - as you really let it
in - it's normal to feel a little overwhelmed by just how
serious the problem really is.
I know when it first hit me, I wanted to give up.
"It's hopeless!"
"I can't possibly fight it or change it - so I'm just going
to give up."
And I did - for a very long time. I withdrew. I stopped
trying in so many ways. I quit participating in life.
I over-achieved at under-achieving.
Which only made things worse.
The pain spread - as pain always does when you ignore it.
It's so sad, really. Because I didn't know what to do.
At the time, basically all I knew was I had created beliefs
that severely limited what I could achieve in my life.
I didn't yet know those beliefs could be changed with
relative ease. I thought beliefs anchored themselves in
'concrete'. Untouchable. Unchangeable. Unable to be
overcome.
I didn't yet know where to find my beliefs and how to change
them. I believed changing beliefs was impossible. At least
for me.
And finally, I didn't yet know changing beliefs comes from
following a process - a specific set of steps involving:
(1) removing the old belief
(2) releasing the old emotional energy
(3) inserting a new belief in the 'slot' that the old belief
occupied
(4) anchoring the new belief with ANY feelings I wanted!
For the new belief to 'stick' - it must carefully conform to
certain rules and restrictions. I still don't know exactly
why; I just know it does.
I don't have all the answers. But I do know what WORKS.
I spent years working with the belief changing technique -
making it as foolproof as possible.
Finally, a few months ago, I recorded it onto an audio file.
It takes about thirty minutes to listen to it all the way
through. Which may seem like a long time if you don't truly
understand what a change it can make in your life.
It's like being able to go back into the past and live life
over again. Only this time getting it right.
Because YOU get to CONSCIOUSLY DECIDE what to believe!
It's a way to rewrite the rules your life must follow. You
can change that negative programming that others put
into you.
But don't take my word for it. Get the recording and use it.
It WILL change your life for the better.
I offer it as a free bonus. It comes with the program on
"How To Create Your Own Reality".
jointhefun
ll also learn about love itself, and joy and happiness,
and so much more when you click on the link below -
jointhefun
all the best,
Mark
Mark Ivar Myhre
The Emotional Healing Wizard
PS - Ever wished you could go back in time and relive the past?
This is the next best thing - jointhefun
Dania
http://selfconfidencesuccessandhappiness.blogspot.com
http://www.stunningnaturalbeautyandhealthproducts.blogspot.com/
http://www.momssecretdiet.com/
And this time GET IT RIGHT?
I'll let you decide...
You already know that from the ages of 0 to 5, you were
constantly soaking up information.
Everything - ALL input - was accepted without question. All on
a subconscious level.
Because we lacked the ability to evaluate. Our conscious mind
simply had not yet developed enough to determine "this is
good" and "that is bad".
In this early stage of life, you were being programmed.
The greatest influence, of course, was your mother.
Think back for a second - what do you suppose mom believed about
her feelings?
Did she view them as grand and glorious gifts? Powerful
expressions of her divine nature?
Did she understand how truly VALUABLE it is to develop a
healthy, mature relationship with WHATEVER she was feeling?
I think we both know the answer to those questions...
Now, keep in mind, until the age of about two years old, you
felt whatever mom felt. When she was happy; you were happy.
When she was scared; you were scared. When she was sad; you
were sad.
Your emotional responses formed and shaped themselves
long before you could think about whether or not they were
the ones you wanted. You had no choice in the matter.
Patterns were laid.
Programs were formed.
Neurological pathways of least effort were created in your
brain. Patterns that most likely exist to this very day.
After the age of 5 or 6 - as you learned to reason and think
for yourself - you may have changed some of those patterns.
Perhaps you flipped them around, so now you do the exact
opposite.
But that's simply the other side of the same coin - and
mother's influence lives on in your brain and in your life.
Those first five years are critical to your life TODAY,
for several reasons.
1. At that age, you couldn't evaluate.
Everything was accepted as fact. You didn't get to decide
what to believe and what not to believe. You had no way of
knowing if what you were about to believe was true or not.
You didn't have the ability to question ANYTHING.
For example -
At this young age, you couldn't possibly associate a spanking
with errant behavior.
You could be trained - but no one ever learns and grows in
a positive way from punishment. Especially a small child.
Instead, the pain of punishment became internalized. And you
could easily come to believe love equals pain.
Because, first of all, there will always be some love between
a mother and child. The love always exists.
But so often, there's also pain. Either by direct punishment,
or by indirect means such as withholding affection.
Mother's disapproval comes in many forms.
And that's not to mention the downright fatigue and hormone
changes and mood swings and angry outbursts and all the
other stuff that comes with the VERY difficult task of being
a mother!
It's almost impossible to be loving all the time. No matter
how hard she tried. But that rage she forgot in a few hours
lives on in you today.
You were a blank slate. Soaking up everything like a sponge.
And the most INTENSE feelings created the BIGGEST impact
and the most POWERFUL programs. Programs you may be living
out today and every day of your life.
Age does not diminish them one bit.
This stands as one of many examples of what happens during
those critical early years when you're unable to evaluate
and rationalize what's happening to you.
2. Beliefs build on previous beliefs.
Let's say you believe - as many people do - that love equals
pain. And you formed this belief at an early age - when you
were a blank slate.
It became a foundational belief. A fundamental belief.
Locked in by intense feelings of sadness, hurt, confusion
and perhaps even memories of physical pain.
Now every other belief around love will rest upon that first
belief about love. Plus, every subsequent belief about PAIN
will also rest upon that belief.
So not only will it influence the pain of love - but also
the LOVE of PAIN! Love and pain become intertwined.
Beliefs are stored in the subconscious mind. Your subconscious
seeks CONSISTENCY above all else. It doesn't give you
what you say you want - it gives you whatever is consistent
with the beliefs you ALREADY hold.
Remember, those beliefs you learned about love and pain
were accepted as the Gospel Truth.
Reality follows belief. YOUR reality follows YOUR beliefs.
The more intense the feelings around a particular belief,
the more influence that belief has in your life and the more
likely it will continue to manifest in your reality.
And when you're a small child - EVERYTHING is intense!
Are you beginning to see how much impact those early beliefs
have on your present condition today?
And why it's really not your fault if you're going through a
ton of emotional pain now?
Not only is love painful...
But for so many of us, we're ATTRACTED to pain - in a failed
attempt to feel love.
All because of a faulty belief.
Made by a two-year-old.
Unable to be reasoned away.
Reinforced in concrete by intense pain.
Influencing every single action we take today.
No matter how hard we try, change seems impossible. Because
we're standing on a foundation of "love = pain".
And now it's like trying to plant flowers on barren soil.
"Why can't I grow beautiful roses?"
"Why does my life seem so miserable when I'm trying so hard?"
Because of the foundation that seems rock-solid; written in
stone.
As you think about what I'm saying - as you really let it
in - it's normal to feel a little overwhelmed by just how
serious the problem really is.
I know when it first hit me, I wanted to give up.
"It's hopeless!"
"I can't possibly fight it or change it - so I'm just going
to give up."
And I did - for a very long time. I withdrew. I stopped
trying in so many ways. I quit participating in life.
I over-achieved at under-achieving.
Which only made things worse.
The pain spread - as pain always does when you ignore it.
It's so sad, really. Because I didn't know what to do.
At the time, basically all I knew was I had created beliefs
that severely limited what I could achieve in my life.
I didn't yet know those beliefs could be changed with
relative ease. I thought beliefs anchored themselves in
'concrete'. Untouchable. Unchangeable. Unable to be
overcome.
I didn't yet know where to find my beliefs and how to change
them. I believed changing beliefs was impossible. At least
for me.
And finally, I didn't yet know changing beliefs comes from
following a process - a specific set of steps involving:
(1) removing the old belief
(2) releasing the old emotional energy
(3) inserting a new belief in the 'slot' that the old belief
occupied
(4) anchoring the new belief with ANY feelings I wanted!
For the new belief to 'stick' - it must carefully conform to
certain rules and restrictions. I still don't know exactly
why; I just know it does.
I don't have all the answers. But I do know what WORKS.
I spent years working with the belief changing technique -
making it as foolproof as possible.
Finally, a few months ago, I recorded it onto an audio file.
It takes about thirty minutes to listen to it all the way
through. Which may seem like a long time if you don't truly
understand what a change it can make in your life.
It's like being able to go back into the past and live life
over again. Only this time getting it right.
Because YOU get to CONSCIOUSLY DECIDE what to believe!
It's a way to rewrite the rules your life must follow. You
can change that negative programming that others put
into you.
But don't take my word for it. Get the recording and use it.
It WILL change your life for the better.
I offer it as a free bonus. It comes with the program on
"How To Create Your Own Reality".
jointhefun
ll also learn about love itself, and joy and happiness,
and so much more when you click on the link below -
jointhefun
all the best,
Mark
Mark Ivar Myhre
The Emotional Healing Wizard
PS - Ever wished you could go back in time and relive the past?
This is the next best thing - jointhefun
Dania
http://selfconfidencesuccessandhappiness.blogspot.com
http://www.stunningnaturalbeautyandhealthproducts.blogspot.com/
http://www.momssecretdiet.com/
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