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Sunday, January 8, 2012
Your Self-Help To Self Esteem
Well first of all what do you know about your self esteem. Self esteem is nothing but an analysis that you do to yourself and if you are happy with your conclusions you are said to have a very high self esteem. But on the other case if you are not happy then you are said to have a very low self esteem. If you are already a person with so much self esteem you wouldn’t want to check it and would be confident in the way you think. If you lack some self esteem then this is the right place to be in. you are having a guide who will talk about a few self-help to self esteem.
Self esteem issue can be solved pretty easily and within a few days practice you can be the one you were never before with respect to your self esteem. Having a low self esteem is anyways bad for you and the people around you. This will cloud the decisions you make. Why should we get things that far? So let’s talk about some self-help to self esteem tips.
First all building confidence is what you have to do to start with building and as self-help to self esteem. Try to focus on the areas were you consider you are weak and work on it without considering you as some sort of a loser. No one ever comes to this world learning everything. Its practice and effort and the way you think that will affect self esteem. Second most important thing is never compare you with others. This will bring in lots of personal conflicts and put you down. So second point has to be strictly followed which is not to compare you with anyone else.
Third point is to stay occupied. Occupy yourself and do not let negative thoughts flow into you. Negativity can cause very low self esteem. So engage in various activities so that your mind won’t wander around silly things that would make you go mad. And always think about the good things and forget the bad. Self-help to self esteem is the only way you can come out of it. Guides can guide you; take the pony till the river.
If you are thinking about from where to start then think about today. Something today that you can start with and analyze how far has this low self esteem saga affected you? Whatever you used to avoid with low self esteem refraining you from has to be started again. What makes you feel like you have low esteem is that you listen to others and not what your own voice has to say. It’s high time to start listening to your own voice. You are correct, you can make decisions, you are not bad, you are doing a great job
, you are happy with what you want so and so. Think only the positives. Let’s not think about the others. Their life has got nothing to do with ours. Try these and keep reading; you will be inspired.ABOUT THE AUTHOR
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Dania
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Roberto Sedycias works as IT consultant for http://www.polomercantil.com.br/
Dania
www.selfconfidencesuccessandhapiness.blogspot.com
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
How You Do One Thing Is the Way You Do Most Things
By Suzanne Holman .One of the highlights at Miraval Resort in Tucson, Arizona is the Equine Experience. I did NOT want to miss this opportunity. I gave up my appointment for a spa treatment because it conflicted with this activity.
Purple Sage Ranch is just a dusty road away from the main resort. Wyatt Webb, best-selling author and psychotherapist met us, loaded us up in the van and off we went to meet the horses.
We weren’t there to ride the horses, but to do simple tasks with them. Interacting with a horse gives you insight into yourself. The idea of the Equine Experience is that the way you do one thing is the way you do most things.
Although I hadn’t had any traumatic experiences with horses, I really didn’t have much confidence because I hadn’t even been riding for over 30 years. And I’ve never groomed a horse.
So, our assignment was to pick out dirt from a horse’s hooves, brush him a couple of different ways, and lead him around the ring. Later, we did another activity, lunging, that I’ll describe in my next blog post.
Cherokee was my horse, a beautiful brown and white. He had quite a personality, seeming to talk to us and often interacting with the fence to get our attention.
HOWEVER, he was not about to lift his hoof for me to clean it.
I followed the described procedure. Hoof stayed firmly planted.
I felt as though I was assertive and he should have gotten the message.
When he didn’t, I started feeling as though this wasn’t going to work for me.
AND caught myself. Yes, I can do this. I walked away from the horse and approached him again with the thought in my mind that he definitely was going to need to pick up his hoof and he did! And I did the same with the second hoof. First try. Yay!
So, when I was really DECISIVE, he got the message.
The same thing happened when I was about to walk him around the ring.
Hmmm, I’m pulling and he is standing still.
“OK, Cherokee. We are going for a walk and here we go.” My assertive steps soon had his following mine very nicely.
It was really clear to me that if I were more decisive in the actions I take in my business, that I would most likely see more positive results. Doubt and uncertainty can certainly make an announcement to all involved that they don’t want to go along with an indecisive person!
Our attitude has a lot to do with our brain health. Thinking positively and focusing on what is going well can make a huge difference in the clarity of our thinking.
If you’re ready to start improving your memory and your brain health, you need to check out the comprehensive Jump Start Course For Your Brain
In this three-part audio course, you will learn more about what you can do for your brain and create a simple plan for yourself to get started.
Dania
http://www.selfconfidencesuccessandhappiness.blogspot.com/
Purple Sage Ranch is just a dusty road away from the main resort. Wyatt Webb, best-selling author and psychotherapist met us, loaded us up in the van and off we went to meet the horses.
We weren’t there to ride the horses, but to do simple tasks with them. Interacting with a horse gives you insight into yourself. The idea of the Equine Experience is that the way you do one thing is the way you do most things.
Although I hadn’t had any traumatic experiences with horses, I really didn’t have much confidence because I hadn’t even been riding for over 30 years. And I’ve never groomed a horse.
So, our assignment was to pick out dirt from a horse’s hooves, brush him a couple of different ways, and lead him around the ring. Later, we did another activity, lunging, that I’ll describe in my next blog post.
Cherokee was my horse, a beautiful brown and white. He had quite a personality, seeming to talk to us and often interacting with the fence to get our attention.
HOWEVER, he was not about to lift his hoof for me to clean it.
I followed the described procedure. Hoof stayed firmly planted.
I felt as though I was assertive and he should have gotten the message.
When he didn’t, I started feeling as though this wasn’t going to work for me.
AND caught myself. Yes, I can do this. I walked away from the horse and approached him again with the thought in my mind that he definitely was going to need to pick up his hoof and he did! And I did the same with the second hoof. First try. Yay!
So, when I was really DECISIVE, he got the message.
The same thing happened when I was about to walk him around the ring.
Hmmm, I’m pulling and he is standing still.
“OK, Cherokee. We are going for a walk and here we go.” My assertive steps soon had his following mine very nicely.
It was really clear to me that if I were more decisive in the actions I take in my business, that I would most likely see more positive results. Doubt and uncertainty can certainly make an announcement to all involved that they don’t want to go along with an indecisive person!
Our attitude has a lot to do with our brain health. Thinking positively and focusing on what is going well can make a huge difference in the clarity of our thinking.
If you’re ready to start improving your memory and your brain health, you need to check out the comprehensive Jump Start Course For Your Brain
In this three-part audio course, you will learn more about what you can do for your brain and create a simple plan for yourself to get started.
Dania
http://www.selfconfidencesuccessandhappiness.blogspot.com/
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Five Things I've Learned to Become Successful in Life
by Patric Chan
Another month has passed and life continues to grow towards what you want or the other way round.
Did you set a goal early this year? Well, did you get what you want by now - after so many months of working hard for it? Apparently, most people don't and that's the problem with setting goals.
We cannot be setting goals with the intention of trying to get what we want because that will become a chasing game which will wear you out. Maybe not for you, but I know I will when I'm chasing 'something'. The goal must be a part of us. My goal is to become who I want and where I want to be mentally and physically.
Your goals must be something that you achieve internally so that you can see it, taste it, smell it and feel it.
Wealth. Love. Connection. Knowledge. Experience.
If you were to evaluate what's success, it boils down to being happy.
I'm not trying to play Zen Master here but to make a point how we make our lives complicated without understanding the true purpose of our action. Life doesn't have to be that way.
There are a few things I've learned from observations and experiencing this year and I'm glad to share them with you today. Who knows, they may give you a shortcut for your journey to obtain the success you're seeking...
i. Your mind attracts what you want. This year, I have my fair share of enjoying successes and experiencing setbacks in life. And when I sit back to think about it, they come in 'sequences'. Once I've gained success, I'll have the momentum to get another one. When I failed and stay in that state, another failure will come again. I don't know, some called it Law of Attraction. To me, I strongly believe that you get what you want based on what your mind thinks because it 'attracts'.
ii. There's one time Grandma falls sick and stayed in the hospital for couple of days. When I visited her in the hospital, I felt blessed that she's still in this beautiful world. Although it's nothing serious, but my heart tells me one thing- nothing in this world will give me the same love and relationship I have with her.
There are only two factors that will remove your love and relationship with someone you care about- when he/she is no longer here or you have ignored the treasure you have today for something that is less valuable but perceived to be valuable. Let me warn you-- once they're gone, they're gone. You should know who to call, hug or kiss by now.
iii. Know your roots. If you're successful today, you're probably once a 'nobody'. Always be humble because it will give you more success in life. I mean, isn't that how you got to where you are today? Knowing your roots also means remembering those who have supported you when you're growing and stayed by your side through thin and thickness. They are just there because they want to be there for you with no other hidden expectations.
iv. Explore life like there's no ending. Listen to new music. Visit new places. Eat at new restaurants. Play new sports. Meet new people. And an endless list of things you can do regardless of whether you're wealthy or not. You see, money doesn't stop you from exploring life. Obviously, you can't do the many things that Bill Gates or Richard Branson can do but there are easily hundreds of things you can do with what you have today. Do you know why we live? I don't have the answer but I'm 100% sure it's not to work and whine about what we don't have.
v. Life is great. As I'm writing this, I'm in my new condominium with nice yellow lightings, listening to a wonderful music and my wife is making a cup of coffee for me. I can feel the cool breeze coming in from the balcony while sitting on a soft brand new, purple sofa. In front of me, I can see a mirror- and when I looked deep; I thank God for giving me this amazing life. Not because my Ego's saying I have an amazing life, but it's really true.
You have an amazing life whether you want to admit it or not. There are people sleeping on the streets today, wandering to look for food and so on. Because you're reading this, I dare to assume that you have a computer- which also means that you're under a roof and are an educated person. You have eyes to read and a wonderful brain to think. For that, life is already great. The rest are bonuses.
Some might complain about being financially broke. You can be broke but you can never be poor because being broke is a temporarily state that can be changed. It might not be now but with sheer persistence and effort combined with using the right information and a willingness to take action, it's just a matter of time before you look back satisfied and said, “I was once broke but now, I'm wealthy and living the life I've always wanted.” Does that sound good? Then, why not make it a reality because you can.
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Patric Chan is an international speaker, author and the creator of Success Trace. Find out how you can use his secrets to massively accelerate your wealth and success, Click Here.
Dania
www.selfconfidencesuccessandhappiness.blogspot.com/
Why Average People Remain Average
By Patric Chan
If you do what you're expected to do, don't expect an outstanding result, my friend.
Study successful people and you'll sure to discover one thing that many of them would have in common... they live by that words of “always do more than what is expected of you”
I don't care. It could be sleeping an hour less everyday to have more time to build your wealth or whatsoever.
Whether you are mowing people's lawn or someone is mowing your lawn, when you are teaching a seminar or being a participant, or when sharing your knowledge or giving advice to your people, always do or give more than what people expect. Then they will flock around you, they will line up to meet you and be happy to support you in whatever thing that you want to do next.
If you're training to be a champion, don't just train like an average player. Train more than you're expected to train.
If you're building a multi-level marketing business, increase the numbers of prospects you would like to meet everyday. If it used to be 10, now you would have at least 12. By just increasing your effort 20%, you'll end up with 60 new prospects a month. Now, that's what I called exponential.
Trying to win a girl's heart? I'm not surprise that you could be “competing” with three other guys for the same girl. And you can only win if you're giving more than all of them if everyone's equal. I'm not saying giving more money or buying stuff' give love, time or whatever that counts to her.
Whenever you are interacting with people or in a relationship, treat the other party extremely well.
Whatever is expected of you in that relationship, be it with your girlfriend or business partner or client, your spouse or your friend, always do or give more than what is expected of you in that relationship for that is the secret of making it a success. It is not that you have to do or give a whole lot more; you have to do just a little bit more than the rest. That's it. The 10mm-difference is what Anthony Robbins calls it for you to become outstanding... in any undertaking.
To do this, it's not difficult. But most people are just too lazy to put in the effort. I'm one of them but I'll always keep reminding myself this' winner takes all. There is no second place, my friend. I would rather strive with the extra effort to get #1 because the pay off is many times greater.
Do you remember who the second best basketball player is? Nope. You can remember Michael Jordan because he's #1. In fact, as far as I know, there's no such place as 'the second best basketball player'.
Who's the second fastest runner in the world? Who knows. I just know the #1.
Others have called this 'more than expected attitude' as 'going for the extra mile'. Notice that they don't say the extra 10 miles.
How come?
Because the average persons don't bother to do more than what is expected of them. I know it's sad but that's the truth.
To most people, "always do more than what is expected of you" are mere words and they don't put substance to it because people are greedy and they just want to do the bare minimum to make money, to make a profit or whatever.
And guess what... successful people are never your average persons.
To be generous and to treat others extremely well, you must come from the perspective of abundance thinking. Then only “always doing more than what is expected of you” will come easy and naturally.
So the next time you are with somebody, or in a business negotiation, or just interacting with another person, ask how can I help you... without even expecting any return.
As the other saying goes-- you have to give, in order to get. In fact, if you want to gather riches you have to be as generous as you can. Touch people's lives profoundly, in ways that they would never forget. Give it forward... help another and that person will help another. Always do more than what is expected of you. Do this and the reward will come to you 10 folds or 100 folds when you are least expecting it.
Do you think you can do more than what you're doing today? Of course you can. The question is... DO YOU WANT OR NOT? You'll have to decide for your own future on that.
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Patric Chan is an international speaker, author and the creator of Success Trace. Find out how you can use his secrets to massively accelerate your wealth and success get more info.
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
8 ways to Boost Self Esteem
8 ways to Boost Self Esteem
If you are struggling with low self esteem you can boost self esteem and improve self confidence. I like to share how to apply my personal experiences to your daily life. There are many things you can start doing to boost self esteem.
Here are some tips you can start applying to your daily life:
1 Honoring and loving yourself. It is impossible to love and honor yourself if you are constantly blaming others. Blaming means that you don't take responsibility for your life. When this happens you are powerless and engage in negative thinking.
2. How do I get out of this trap?. I changed my negative self talk. Changing your negative self talk is a great boost . Give yourself permission to ask for your needs, say no, and see your beauty
3. Do not judge other people. If I find myself judging I immediately change my attention. When you judge others think that you are better than them or you use this judgment to feel better.
As Wayne Dyer said: Whenever you have a thought that excludes or judges anyone else, you aren't defining them. You're defining yourself as someone who needs to judge others.
4. Stop feeling guilty. If want to eat chocolate I eat it without guilt. The same if I need a nap , play or just relax and do nothing. Remember that guilt paralyze you. Even if you were mistaken, assume responsibility and move on.
5. Don't take personally another person criticism</b>. I know that if come across to somebody that criticizes me is not about me. Some people to think that are better than others by putting them down. Start to take criticism as a feedback, and see if you could learn from it.
6. Exercising helps boosting self esteem, your mood, body image and improve self confidence. When I exercise I have spent time with myself. My myself. My body is light, flexible and with a lot of energy. I exercise frequently. I cannot run outside, I go to the gym. It is really important to choose an exercise you enjoy doing instead of forcing yourself to do what you were told that it was better. Choose doing what you like, make it fun and enjoyable.
7. Meditate. I meditate every day. When being in silence I connect to myself. It doesn't matter what meditation you use, the important issue is to be in silence. Meditation will connect you with your source of self worth and helps to improve self confidence.
8. Have sense of humor. I have a great sense of humor, that’s helps a lot because I won't dwell on self pity. Start feeling happy. Read the article about constructive humor. Learn to laugh at yourself. People that are unable to laugh at themselves is because of their own insecurities and fears.
Celebrate success</b>. I celebrate success every day; even the small ones helps your self confidence. I become conscious of them. ( I made dinner, I watered my plants, I was nice to an angry person, etc). Celebrate also your positive qualities. This habit will keep you motivated. Take a moment and acknowledge every single effort do.
Practice any of the 8 tips in your daily life. The key is to do something for you so that you feel good. Once you have tried a few of the tips I have suggested, make the ones that worked for you a routine.
Article by ©Carla Valencia of Building Self Esteem Download a copy of The Boost your Self Esteem Workbook.
Dania
http://www.selfconfidencesuccesandhappiness.blogspot.com/
If you are struggling with low self esteem you can boost self esteem and improve self confidence. I like to share how to apply my personal experiences to your daily life. There are many things you can start doing to boost self esteem.
Here are some tips you can start applying to your daily life:
1 Honoring and loving yourself. It is impossible to love and honor yourself if you are constantly blaming others. Blaming means that you don't take responsibility for your life. When this happens you are powerless and engage in negative thinking.
2. How do I get out of this trap?. I changed my negative self talk. Changing your negative self talk is a great boost . Give yourself permission to ask for your needs, say no, and see your beauty
3. Do not judge other people. If I find myself judging I immediately change my attention. When you judge others think that you are better than them or you use this judgment to feel better.
As Wayne Dyer said: Whenever you have a thought that excludes or judges anyone else, you aren't defining them. You're defining yourself as someone who needs to judge others.
4. Stop feeling guilty. If want to eat chocolate I eat it without guilt. The same if I need a nap , play or just relax and do nothing. Remember that guilt paralyze you. Even if you were mistaken, assume responsibility and move on.
5. Don't take personally another person criticism</b>. I know that if come across to somebody that criticizes me is not about me. Some people to think that are better than others by putting them down. Start to take criticism as a feedback, and see if you could learn from it.
6. Exercising helps boosting self esteem, your mood, body image and improve self confidence. When I exercise I have spent time with myself. My myself. My body is light, flexible and with a lot of energy. I exercise frequently. I cannot run outside, I go to the gym. It is really important to choose an exercise you enjoy doing instead of forcing yourself to do what you were told that it was better. Choose doing what you like, make it fun and enjoyable.
7. Meditate. I meditate every day. When being in silence I connect to myself. It doesn't matter what meditation you use, the important issue is to be in silence. Meditation will connect you with your source of self worth and helps to improve self confidence.
8. Have sense of humor. I have a great sense of humor, that’s helps a lot because I won't dwell on self pity. Start feeling happy. Read the article about constructive humor. Learn to laugh at yourself. People that are unable to laugh at themselves is because of their own insecurities and fears.
Celebrate success</b>. I celebrate success every day; even the small ones helps your self confidence. I become conscious of them. ( I made dinner, I watered my plants, I was nice to an angry person, etc). Celebrate also your positive qualities. This habit will keep you motivated. Take a moment and acknowledge every single effort do.
Practice any of the 8 tips in your daily life. The key is to do something for you so that you feel good. Once you have tried a few of the tips I have suggested, make the ones that worked for you a routine.
Article by ©Carla Valencia of Building Self Esteem Download a copy of The Boost your Self Esteem Workbook.
Dania
http://www.selfconfidencesuccesandhappiness.blogspot.com/
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Go Back And Live Life Over Again
Can you really go back in time and live life over again?
And this time GET IT RIGHT?
I'll let you decide...
You already know that from the ages of 0 to 5, you were
constantly soaking up information.
Everything - ALL input - was accepted without question. All on
a subconscious level.
Because we lacked the ability to evaluate. Our conscious mind
simply had not yet developed enough to determine "this is
good" and "that is bad".
In this early stage of life, you were being programmed.
The greatest influence, of course, was your mother.
Think back for a second - what do you suppose mom believed about
her feelings?
Did she view them as grand and glorious gifts? Powerful
expressions of her divine nature?
Did she understand how truly VALUABLE it is to develop a
healthy, mature relationship with WHATEVER she was feeling?
I think we both know the answer to those questions...
Now, keep in mind, until the age of about two years old, you
felt whatever mom felt. When she was happy; you were happy.
When she was scared; you were scared. When she was sad; you
were sad.
Your emotional responses formed and shaped themselves
long before you could think about whether or not they were
the ones you wanted. You had no choice in the matter.
Patterns were laid.
Programs were formed.
Neurological pathways of least effort were created in your
brain. Patterns that most likely exist to this very day.
After the age of 5 or 6 - as you learned to reason and think
for yourself - you may have changed some of those patterns.
Perhaps you flipped them around, so now you do the exact
opposite.
But that's simply the other side of the same coin - and
mother's influence lives on in your brain and in your life.
Those first five years are critical to your life TODAY,
for several reasons.
1. At that age, you couldn't evaluate.
Everything was accepted as fact. You didn't get to decide
what to believe and what not to believe. You had no way of
knowing if what you were about to believe was true or not.
You didn't have the ability to question ANYTHING.
For example -
At this young age, you couldn't possibly associate a spanking
with errant behavior.
You could be trained - but no one ever learns and grows in
a positive way from punishment. Especially a small child.
Instead, the pain of punishment became internalized. And you
could easily come to believe love equals pain.
Because, first of all, there will always be some love between
a mother and child. The love always exists.
But so often, there's also pain. Either by direct punishment,
or by indirect means such as withholding affection.
Mother's disapproval comes in many forms.
And that's not to mention the downright fatigue and hormone
changes and mood swings and angry outbursts and all the
other stuff that comes with the VERY difficult task of being
a mother!
It's almost impossible to be loving all the time. No matter
how hard she tried. But that rage she forgot in a few hours
lives on in you today.
You were a blank slate. Soaking up everything like a sponge.
And the most INTENSE feelings created the BIGGEST impact
and the most POWERFUL programs. Programs you may be living
out today and every day of your life.
Age does not diminish them one bit.
This stands as one of many examples of what happens during
those critical early years when you're unable to evaluate
and rationalize what's happening to you.
2. Beliefs build on previous beliefs.
Let's say you believe - as many people do - that love equals
pain. And you formed this belief at an early age - when you
were a blank slate.
It became a foundational belief. A fundamental belief.
Locked in by intense feelings of sadness, hurt, confusion
and perhaps even memories of physical pain.
Now every other belief around love will rest upon that first
belief about love. Plus, every subsequent belief about PAIN
will also rest upon that belief.
So not only will it influence the pain of love - but also
the LOVE of PAIN! Love and pain become intertwined.
Beliefs are stored in the subconscious mind. Your subconscious
seeks CONSISTENCY above all else. It doesn't give you
what you say you want - it gives you whatever is consistent
with the beliefs you ALREADY hold.
Remember, those beliefs you learned about love and pain
were accepted as the Gospel Truth.
Reality follows belief. YOUR reality follows YOUR beliefs.
The more intense the feelings around a particular belief,
the more influence that belief has in your life and the more
likely it will continue to manifest in your reality.
And when you're a small child - EVERYTHING is intense!
Are you beginning to see how much impact those early beliefs
have on your present condition today?
And why it's really not your fault if you're going through a
ton of emotional pain now?
Not only is love painful...
But for so many of us, we're ATTRACTED to pain - in a failed
attempt to feel love.
All because of a faulty belief.
Made by a two-year-old.
Unable to be reasoned away.
Reinforced in concrete by intense pain.
Influencing every single action we take today.
No matter how hard we try, change seems impossible. Because
we're standing on a foundation of "love = pain".
And now it's like trying to plant flowers on barren soil.
"Why can't I grow beautiful roses?"
"Why does my life seem so miserable when I'm trying so hard?"
Because of the foundation that seems rock-solid; written in
stone.
As you think about what I'm saying - as you really let it
in - it's normal to feel a little overwhelmed by just how
serious the problem really is.
I know when it first hit me, I wanted to give up.
"It's hopeless!"
"I can't possibly fight it or change it - so I'm just going
to give up."
And I did - for a very long time. I withdrew. I stopped
trying in so many ways. I quit participating in life.
I over-achieved at under-achieving.
Which only made things worse.
The pain spread - as pain always does when you ignore it.
It's so sad, really. Because I didn't know what to do.
At the time, basically all I knew was I had created beliefs
that severely limited what I could achieve in my life.
I didn't yet know those beliefs could be changed with
relative ease. I thought beliefs anchored themselves in
'concrete'. Untouchable. Unchangeable. Unable to be
overcome.
I didn't yet know where to find my beliefs and how to change
them. I believed changing beliefs was impossible. At least
for me.
And finally, I didn't yet know changing beliefs comes from
following a process - a specific set of steps involving:
(1) removing the old belief
(2) releasing the old emotional energy
(3) inserting a new belief in the 'slot' that the old belief
occupied
(4) anchoring the new belief with ANY feelings I wanted!
For the new belief to 'stick' - it must carefully conform to
certain rules and restrictions. I still don't know exactly
why; I just know it does.
I don't have all the answers. But I do know what WORKS.
I spent years working with the belief changing technique -
making it as foolproof as possible.
Finally, a few months ago, I recorded it onto an audio file.
It takes about thirty minutes to listen to it all the way
through. Which may seem like a long time if you don't truly
understand what a change it can make in your life.
It's like being able to go back into the past and live life
over again. Only this time getting it right.
Because YOU get to CONSCIOUSLY DECIDE what to believe!
It's a way to rewrite the rules your life must follow. You
can change that negative programming that others put
into you.
But don't take my word for it. Get the recording and use it.
It WILL change your life for the better.
I offer it as a free bonus. It comes with the program on
"How To Create Your Own Reality".
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ll also learn about love itself, and joy and happiness,
and so much more when you click on the link below -
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all the best,
Mark
Mark Ivar Myhre
The Emotional Healing Wizard
PS - Ever wished you could go back in time and relive the past?
This is the next best thing - jointhefun
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And this time GET IT RIGHT?
I'll let you decide...
You already know that from the ages of 0 to 5, you were
constantly soaking up information.
Everything - ALL input - was accepted without question. All on
a subconscious level.
Because we lacked the ability to evaluate. Our conscious mind
simply had not yet developed enough to determine "this is
good" and "that is bad".
In this early stage of life, you were being programmed.
The greatest influence, of course, was your mother.
Think back for a second - what do you suppose mom believed about
her feelings?
Did she view them as grand and glorious gifts? Powerful
expressions of her divine nature?
Did she understand how truly VALUABLE it is to develop a
healthy, mature relationship with WHATEVER she was feeling?
I think we both know the answer to those questions...
Now, keep in mind, until the age of about two years old, you
felt whatever mom felt. When she was happy; you were happy.
When she was scared; you were scared. When she was sad; you
were sad.
Your emotional responses formed and shaped themselves
long before you could think about whether or not they were
the ones you wanted. You had no choice in the matter.
Patterns were laid.
Programs were formed.
Neurological pathways of least effort were created in your
brain. Patterns that most likely exist to this very day.
After the age of 5 or 6 - as you learned to reason and think
for yourself - you may have changed some of those patterns.
Perhaps you flipped them around, so now you do the exact
opposite.
But that's simply the other side of the same coin - and
mother's influence lives on in your brain and in your life.
Those first five years are critical to your life TODAY,
for several reasons.
1. At that age, you couldn't evaluate.
Everything was accepted as fact. You didn't get to decide
what to believe and what not to believe. You had no way of
knowing if what you were about to believe was true or not.
You didn't have the ability to question ANYTHING.
For example -
At this young age, you couldn't possibly associate a spanking
with errant behavior.
You could be trained - but no one ever learns and grows in
a positive way from punishment. Especially a small child.
Instead, the pain of punishment became internalized. And you
could easily come to believe love equals pain.
Because, first of all, there will always be some love between
a mother and child. The love always exists.
But so often, there's also pain. Either by direct punishment,
or by indirect means such as withholding affection.
Mother's disapproval comes in many forms.
And that's not to mention the downright fatigue and hormone
changes and mood swings and angry outbursts and all the
other stuff that comes with the VERY difficult task of being
a mother!
It's almost impossible to be loving all the time. No matter
how hard she tried. But that rage she forgot in a few hours
lives on in you today.
You were a blank slate. Soaking up everything like a sponge.
And the most INTENSE feelings created the BIGGEST impact
and the most POWERFUL programs. Programs you may be living
out today and every day of your life.
Age does not diminish them one bit.
This stands as one of many examples of what happens during
those critical early years when you're unable to evaluate
and rationalize what's happening to you.
2. Beliefs build on previous beliefs.
Let's say you believe - as many people do - that love equals
pain. And you formed this belief at an early age - when you
were a blank slate.
It became a foundational belief. A fundamental belief.
Locked in by intense feelings of sadness, hurt, confusion
and perhaps even memories of physical pain.
Now every other belief around love will rest upon that first
belief about love. Plus, every subsequent belief about PAIN
will also rest upon that belief.
So not only will it influence the pain of love - but also
the LOVE of PAIN! Love and pain become intertwined.
Beliefs are stored in the subconscious mind. Your subconscious
seeks CONSISTENCY above all else. It doesn't give you
what you say you want - it gives you whatever is consistent
with the beliefs you ALREADY hold.
Remember, those beliefs you learned about love and pain
were accepted as the Gospel Truth.
Reality follows belief. YOUR reality follows YOUR beliefs.
The more intense the feelings around a particular belief,
the more influence that belief has in your life and the more
likely it will continue to manifest in your reality.
And when you're a small child - EVERYTHING is intense!
Are you beginning to see how much impact those early beliefs
have on your present condition today?
And why it's really not your fault if you're going through a
ton of emotional pain now?
Not only is love painful...
But for so many of us, we're ATTRACTED to pain - in a failed
attempt to feel love.
All because of a faulty belief.
Made by a two-year-old.
Unable to be reasoned away.
Reinforced in concrete by intense pain.
Influencing every single action we take today.
No matter how hard we try, change seems impossible. Because
we're standing on a foundation of "love = pain".
And now it's like trying to plant flowers on barren soil.
"Why can't I grow beautiful roses?"
"Why does my life seem so miserable when I'm trying so hard?"
Because of the foundation that seems rock-solid; written in
stone.
As you think about what I'm saying - as you really let it
in - it's normal to feel a little overwhelmed by just how
serious the problem really is.
I know when it first hit me, I wanted to give up.
"It's hopeless!"
"I can't possibly fight it or change it - so I'm just going
to give up."
And I did - for a very long time. I withdrew. I stopped
trying in so many ways. I quit participating in life.
I over-achieved at under-achieving.
Which only made things worse.
The pain spread - as pain always does when you ignore it.
It's so sad, really. Because I didn't know what to do.
At the time, basically all I knew was I had created beliefs
that severely limited what I could achieve in my life.
I didn't yet know those beliefs could be changed with
relative ease. I thought beliefs anchored themselves in
'concrete'. Untouchable. Unchangeable. Unable to be
overcome.
I didn't yet know where to find my beliefs and how to change
them. I believed changing beliefs was impossible. At least
for me.
And finally, I didn't yet know changing beliefs comes from
following a process - a specific set of steps involving:
(1) removing the old belief
(2) releasing the old emotional energy
(3) inserting a new belief in the 'slot' that the old belief
occupied
(4) anchoring the new belief with ANY feelings I wanted!
For the new belief to 'stick' - it must carefully conform to
certain rules and restrictions. I still don't know exactly
why; I just know it does.
I don't have all the answers. But I do know what WORKS.
I spent years working with the belief changing technique -
making it as foolproof as possible.
Finally, a few months ago, I recorded it onto an audio file.
It takes about thirty minutes to listen to it all the way
through. Which may seem like a long time if you don't truly
understand what a change it can make in your life.
It's like being able to go back into the past and live life
over again. Only this time getting it right.
Because YOU get to CONSCIOUSLY DECIDE what to believe!
It's a way to rewrite the rules your life must follow. You
can change that negative programming that others put
into you.
But don't take my word for it. Get the recording and use it.
It WILL change your life for the better.
I offer it as a free bonus. It comes with the program on
"How To Create Your Own Reality".
jointhefun
ll also learn about love itself, and joy and happiness,
and so much more when you click on the link below -
jointhefun
all the best,
Mark
Mark Ivar Myhre
The Emotional Healing Wizard
PS - Ever wished you could go back in time and relive the past?
This is the next best thing - jointhefun
Dania
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Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Low Self Esteem - 7 Tips for Improving Low Self Esteem
Everyone today has the target of improving their low self-esteem. You are either working towards actively or you are subconsciously trying to improve your low self-esteem. The problem that arises here is that you might not understand what exactly you want to improve.
Do you know any certain way by which you can improve your low self-esteem?. Not really. In order to make it easier for you to achieve your goals, here are 7 tips that will help you improve low self-esteem:
1. Stop comparing yourself to other people: Do not ever think that you are lower than the other. When you meet someone, give them a firm handshake. Treat them equally. Look straight into the eye while talking to them. You should compare yourself with yourself only. See what you did yesterday and look at how you did it today. If there is any improvement, feel good about it, reward yourself and celebrate
2. Put yourself first: Remember that you need to give yourself importance in order to be able to make a change. You need to understand what you are doing correctly and what you are not doing correctly. People will only respect you if you respect yourself and thus, you need to give yourself importance. Put your needs and desires first.
3. Talk positively about yourself. Make announcements of your achievements. Feel pride in whatever you do and be confident about it. Do what you love and tell everyone about it. But make sure that you don't get overconfident and don't start boasting.
4. Accept compliments: It sometimes is difficult to accept a compliment and not always think that it is ridiculous. People with low self-esteem find hard to accept compliments. Everyone has an opinion and you should respect it even if you do not agree with it. You should also think good about yourself if others do. When somebody gives you a compliment just say thank you.
5. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people: You should keep yourself surrounded with positive people who support you. Bitching and complaining may seem fun at times but over a period of time, you may become one of them. People who bitch and complain very often are never happy. You will feel happier with positive people around you and they will also give you positive energies. They will improve your self-esteem by supporting you when you are feeling low.
6. Acknowledge your positive qualities: Each one has some positive qualities. Everyone has talents and is good at something. Understand what you are good at and encourage yourself to do that often. Exercise your talent and make it stronger. If you adore a certain part of your body, give it more attention than all the others. For example, if you love your eyes, look directly into your eyes when you see yourself in the mirror.
7. Involve yourself in activities that you love: There is something for sure that you love doing. Keep yourself busy in what you love doing and improve the way you feel about yourself. This will surely help you improve low self-esteem.
Article by ©Carla Valencia of SelfEsteemandAwareness Building Self Esteem
Download a copy of The Boost your Self Esteem Workbook
Dania
http://www.momssecretdiet.com/
http://www.stunningnaturalbeautynhealthproducts.com/
Do you know any certain way by which you can improve your low self-esteem?. Not really. In order to make it easier for you to achieve your goals, here are 7 tips that will help you improve low self-esteem:
1. Stop comparing yourself to other people: Do not ever think that you are lower than the other. When you meet someone, give them a firm handshake. Treat them equally. Look straight into the eye while talking to them. You should compare yourself with yourself only. See what you did yesterday and look at how you did it today. If there is any improvement, feel good about it, reward yourself and celebrate
2. Put yourself first: Remember that you need to give yourself importance in order to be able to make a change. You need to understand what you are doing correctly and what you are not doing correctly. People will only respect you if you respect yourself and thus, you need to give yourself importance. Put your needs and desires first.
3. Talk positively about yourself. Make announcements of your achievements. Feel pride in whatever you do and be confident about it. Do what you love and tell everyone about it. But make sure that you don't get overconfident and don't start boasting.
4. Accept compliments: It sometimes is difficult to accept a compliment and not always think that it is ridiculous. People with low self-esteem find hard to accept compliments. Everyone has an opinion and you should respect it even if you do not agree with it. You should also think good about yourself if others do. When somebody gives you a compliment just say thank you.
5. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people: You should keep yourself surrounded with positive people who support you. Bitching and complaining may seem fun at times but over a period of time, you may become one of them. People who bitch and complain very often are never happy. You will feel happier with positive people around you and they will also give you positive energies. They will improve your self-esteem by supporting you when you are feeling low.
6. Acknowledge your positive qualities: Each one has some positive qualities. Everyone has talents and is good at something. Understand what you are good at and encourage yourself to do that often. Exercise your talent and make it stronger. If you adore a certain part of your body, give it more attention than all the others. For example, if you love your eyes, look directly into your eyes when you see yourself in the mirror.
7. Involve yourself in activities that you love: There is something for sure that you love doing. Keep yourself busy in what you love doing and improve the way you feel about yourself. This will surely help you improve low self-esteem.
Article by ©Carla Valencia of SelfEsteemandAwareness Building Self Esteem
Download a copy of The Boost your Self Esteem Workbook
Dania
http://www.momssecretdiet.com/
http://www.stunningnaturalbeautynhealthproducts.com/
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